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Types of Parenting Styles – What is Right For You

types of parenting styles

Parenting styles can be very difficult to figure out, especially if you don’t know much about the personalities involved. Generally speaking, there are four types of parenting styles that parents can choose from. These styles are usually based upon the level of control that parents exert and the degree of support they provide. However, each style can also be adapted to fit a range of ages and developmental stages. Here are some of the main types of parenting styles that exist today.

Authoritarian Style

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The most authoritarian of all the types of parenting styles is probably the most well-known. Authoritarian parenting styles essentially control all aspects of the lives of the parents involved. There are high levels of supervision, criticism, and punishment, all of which are geared toward helping the child to make sure that they act properly, with consequences in mind. This is not necessarily the best type of parenting style for everyone, as it can often lead to low self-esteem and poor coping skills for children.

This is an extremely effective parenting style in almost every situation. It requires a strong sense of authority and a strong willingness to communicate effectively with all members of the family. Discipline is fairly easy to apply when kids understand the rules and are well behaved. This parenting style is often used for children that tend to be difficult or stubborn. Rewards are frequently given when appropriate behavior is achieved, which makes this a very effective method of reinforcing positive behaviors.

The other two types of parenting styles are very similar. There are a few subtle differences between these two parenting styles, which are just differences in emphasis. But they involve very similar approaches to child behavior and parenting. Both parents focus a great deal on maintaining a sense of order within their household. This can be achieved by using consequences for bad behavior and by communicating positive expectations and guidelines to the child. A fundamental part of any of these types of parenting styles is the importance of communication.

Stickler/ Princess Model

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The parenting styles described above often differ slightly in the way that they communicate various messages. Most parents focus on using words and actions to communicate important messages to kids. Parents that live by the “stickler” or “princess” model of discipline often communicate the message that certain behaviors must be followed in a certain way. Other parents work to create as many options as possible for kids, and parents who adopt the “child-proof” approach essentially give kids only one option – if they do something they don’t want to do, they have no choice but to do it.

All of these styles have the same underlying principles, which are to encourage healthy communication, set limits, and consequences, and make sure that kids know and understand how the decisions are being made in the household. Different parenting styles will use different methods to communicate these messages to kids. Some parents will encourage open communication and allow kids to voice their opinions, and some will punish inappropriate behavior. The most important thing that all parents need to do is to make sure that they are consistent in their messaging, and that they don’t let their personal beliefs or prejudices affect their approach to parenting.

Inclusive Style

The most effective parenting styles will probably fall into a few main categories. Inclusive style parenting styles involve making sure that kids get plenty of physical activities and opportunities for socialization. These types of parents encourage their children to be themselves and to try new things. They also take a hands-on approach to learning new behaviors and techniques, and they try to help children develop positive behaviors before they become harder behaviors to change. Authoritarian parenting styles tend to discourage variety and creativity, and they focus on using power and force to get children to behave.


Those who foster a more democratic approach to discipline might include some of the characteristics of flexible, inclusive, and collaborative parenting styles. These parents tend to value communication and shared decision-making more than they do rigid consistency. These parents tend to model looks like experts and are not afraid to get help from their children. They value open communication and a variety of techniques for discipline. Finally, they tend to encourage independent lifestyle choices and to send their children to schools where they feel like they’re being listened to and respected.

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