We need to talk


As I found out, communication is key.


Whenever Gavin slightly pointed or fiexed his toes, I felt my weight shifting drastically.

And when he didn’t fully extend his arms to support mine, I felt like I was crashing onto him.

Jessica taught me to say “more toes” if I wanted him to fiex his feet, and “less toes” if I wanted him to point his feet. For acroyoga to work out, we had to talk.

Stacking, an acroyoga term that refers to the alignment of bones, is crucial to ensure good balance in acroyoga. That’s also why some yogis like Jessica are able to base men who are more than double her weight.

Once his limbs were in an optimal position, everything fell into place. I could even release my hands, in a free bird pose!

I felt empowered to try more poses – with Jessica around, of course. It’s not advisable for newbies to do acroyoga without an experienced spotter.

The next challenge: Shin-to-mountain pose. From the front bird pose, I would have to shift weight and place my feet – one by one – on Gavin’s shins to get into a standing position. That turned out easier than expected, with me talking him through it.

It sounded something like this: “I’m going to shift weight to my right first, and step with my left foot. Okay. Now for the other side.”

There was no room for misunderstanding.

One wrong move and I stood a high chance of toppling or hurting myself.

When his knees started to spread out, I found myself saying calmly: “Bring your knees closer together. Yes, that’s good.” That did the trick. Hubby quickly obliged, staying as still as possible to keep me stable.

The rest of the session went on smoothly, as we learnt to adapt to each other’s bodies, understanding our muscular imbalances and moving in harmony.

In Gavin’s words: “Acroyoga sounded intimidating at first, but I quickly realised it’s about giving and receiving. With every move, your partner’s body reacts and adapts.

“As the base, it’s important to provide both stability and assurance to the  yer.

We developed a newfound connection, both physically and mentally, plus a new level of interdependence and trust.” Now, if one session of acroyoga could make us so appreciative and open towards each other, imagine what wonders it would do for our relationship if we practised regularly!

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